Do You Have Super-Hero Characteristics?

Welcome!

I wonder if this is you... have a read...

When a person gives and gives to everyone and everything else but themselves, it’s like they become their own worst enemy. There is only so much time and energy each person can give before some other part of their life starts to unravel. Unless new ways are put in place, the super-hero person stands a very strong chance of ultimately having to take serious time off from everything when his/her health fails... or his/her relationship fails, or ?

The super-hero role is a dangerous role for anyone to try and fill.

Super-heros are most susceptible to burnout… so, avoid taking the job description! Working Moms, you are a working group most prone to this “condition” and are called, therefore, to be especially aware and diligent with self-care practices.

Don’t wait until you get burned out or really sick before you hear the slow-down-message that you already know is before you. The answer?... take a look at what you’re realistically capable of giving at home and in your work. Look at what reasonable blocks of time are needed for each task then use this information to guide you to set clear boundaries for your health care.

These are simple suggestions and yet so hard for some people to put in action. Experience tells me that most people who bend over backwards to accomplish everything under the sun have a propensity to make the expectations of others more important than themselves. Some may have “leaky boundaries” and don't know how to say no. Others get an unconscious sense of value from meeting everyone else's agendas, even at their own expense. Praise and approval are not worthy benefits to burn yourself out. Steady progress is better than perfection!

If you try to live up to super-hero standards at home and work, ask yourself...

“What motivates me / drives me beyond reasonable performance?”
(This is a good question to ask yourself if you find that you are not having a life.)

P.S. There’s only one person that can help you break this cycle… and that’s YOU!

There are oodles of additional suggestions of this nature in our "Becoming the BEST YOU Possible" eBook... get your copy at www.life-balance-success.com
$27, that's all... and it even comes with a lovely, peaceful Relaxation guided meditation MP3.

Talk to again soon,

Carolyn

Do You Have Super-Hero Characteristics?

Hi and welcome!

Here's an exerpt from our soon-to-be-published eBook,
"The BEST YOU POSSIBLE - Tools for Work and Life Balance."

"When a person gives and gives to everyone / everything else but themselves, it’s like they become their own worst enemy. There is only so much time and energy each person can give before some other part of their life starts to unravel. Unless new ways are put in place, the super-hero person stands a very strong chance of ultimately having to take serious time off from everything when his/her health fails... or his/her relationship fails, or ?

The super-hero role is a dangerous role for anyone to try and fill.

Super-heros are most susceptible to burnout… so, at all costs avoid taking the job description! Working Moms, you are a work group most prone to this “condition” and are called, therefore, to be more aware and diligent with self-care practices.

Don’t wait until you get really sick before you hear the slow-down-message that you already know is before you. The answer?... take a look at what you’re realistically capable of giving at home and in your work. Look at what reasonable blocks of time are needed for each task then use this information as your guide to set clear boundaries for your health care.

These are simple suggestions and yet so hard for some people to put in action. Why? Our counselling experience tells us that most people who bend over backwards to accomplish everything under the sun have a propensity to make others more important than themselves. Many have “leaky boundaries” and don't know how to say no. Many others get an unconscious sense of value from meeting everyone else's agendas, even at their own expense. Praise and approval are not worthy benefits to burn you out. Steady progress is better than perfection!

If you try to live up to super-hero standards at home and work, ask yourself,
“What motivates me / drives me beyond reasonable performance?”
(And, this is a good question to ask yourself if you find that you are not having a life.)

P.S. There’s only one person that can help you break this cycle… and that’s YOU!"

Stay tuned for more news on our eBook launch date!


Warmly, Carolyn
Inner Fitness(R) Programs

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Christmas Overload

Hi! The countdown to Christmas is on, approaching very quickly.

Are you already overloaded with Christmas, even though it hasn't arrived yet?
I admit I've had my moments lately... and some of you are expressing the same to me.

This holiday season, more so than others in the year, seems to require SO much extra attention with so many more tasks and such expectation that it causes anxiety rather than the joy it "ought" to have associated with it.

How to fit everything in... especially in addition to the usual busy schedules we all already have? I know my list includes;

• Writing Christmas cards to loved ones
• Sending out a business promotion to clients
• Buying gifts
• Wrapping gifts
• Packaging the gifts that need to be mailed and getting them to the post office
• Decorating the office
• Decorating the house and tree
• Hosting a Christmas dinner for family and friends
• Christmas Day travels and an overnight stay

Staying sane and happy in the face of all the pressure can become overwhelming for many at this time of year! It is any wonder that Christmas creates a lot of anxiety and even depression.

Things that can help to manage your Christmas overwhelm could include;

1. List priorities & time-line each task so it's clear what needs attention first.
2. Work steadily on immediate priorities only, resisting the temptation to do other things.
3. Ask for help and delegate where possible.
4. Create little systems to make each task as easy and as duplicatable as possible.
5. Keep it simple!
6. Focus on quality, rather than quantity.
7. Take breaks from it all occasionally.
8. Spend within your means, so that you do not create that an additional anxiety for yourself.
9. Reminder... small homemade gifts are received very well.
10. Understand and respect your limits... don't try to be the Christmas task super-hero or you'll be sick when Christmas actually arrives.

Most importantly is to look after yourself well, eat healthfully, get adequate sleep, keep alcohol to a minimum and remind yourself that "It will all work out well" with the right mindset and spirit.

Don't sweat the small stuff... instead focus on the big picture of joining with those you love and having a joyous time together over the holiday. Afterall, isn't that what Christmas is REALLY about!

Warmly, Carolyn
Inner Fitness(R) Programs
www.innerfitness.ca